Victim of My Own Optimism
I had a bit of a revelation… And I like sharing these moments… In hopes that someone else out there might learn something, or at the very least, relate.
7 years ago, someone told me, “You always look for the best in people, this will be both a blessing and a curse.” At the time, I didn’t understand how it could be a curse. But life quickly taught me that lesson. Recently, I read a quote that hit the nail on the head (I know some of you can relate to this as well), “I have a tendency to not only see the best in everyone, but to assume that everyone is emotionally capable of reaching his highest potential. I have fallen in love more times than I care to count with the highest potential of a man, rather than the man himself, and I have hung onto the relationship for a long time (sometimes far too long) waiting for the man to ascend to his own greatness. Many times in romance I have been a victim of my own optimism.”
I’ve finally come to understand, no matter how strongly you feel for someone, or how much potential you see… If that person isn’t stepping up to the potential you know they are capable of… There is nothing you can do to change that. People grow in their own time, and when they’re ready. If something is meant to be, it will happen in time. Life has a funny way of unfolding and teaching us lessons. We may not always understand at the time, but every person we meet (good and bad), and every obstacle we live through is preparing us for the life God has planned. He has greater plans for us than we can even imagine for ourselves
Trust Life a Bit
Stepping onto my soap box for a moment: Lately I’ve heard so many people’s negative outlooks on love and marriage. I believe marriage is a cherished and sacred commitment. Yes, it is scary to see so many failed marriages, and broken homes. But I do believe… If you marry the right person, for the right reasons…It is possible to have a happy, successful relationship. So many people don’t believe in marriage because they have been hurt in the past, or because they’ve been witness to failed relationships. Don’t let your scars alter your outlook on love and life. Let love make you better, not bitter. This girl has experienced her fair share of heartbreak… But I won’t let that stop me from believing I will one day share my life with someone incredible and perfect for me. Why am I single at 26? Because I won’t settle for less than everything I know I want and deserve. Walking down that aisle is something I want to do only once in my life… And I want to know I’m walking toward the one person who was worth the wait